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An Open Letter To My Girl Squad: From One Frazzled First Time Mummy

TO MY GIRL SQUAD:

You know exactly who you are. My ladies. The sisters I never had. My confidants. Fellow gossipers. Shoulders to lean on. Fellow wine connoisseurs.

We've loved together, laughed together, travelled together, lived together, worked together, partied together. United through sisterhood.

I've always held the importance of my girl squad so very close to my heart. I have no sisters through blood (although am blessed to have some brilliant sisters in law) and over my life time I've adopted some amazing ones. You know who you are. We went through school together becoming friends at the tender age of 9. We've done our growing up in the same neighbourhood in Melbourne Australia. We've become adults together. Some of you I've met later in life. We spent our 20's dancing all night. We've been on some amazing girls holidays together. Some of you were my first friends that I ever made when I moved to London and I am forever indebted to you because you made London feel like home.



I have always counted my blessings having such an amazing girl squad to share so many life memories with. The moment I told you all I was pregnant, I always knew my squad would be behind me, and even though I was the first of us to enter this crazy new chapter called motherhood. You have embraced Baby Girl, my new life and my frazzled sense of state far better than I think I would have had the shoe been on the other foot.

To be very honest with you, since I jumped on the motherhood bus I feel like there has been many times where I haven't been the friend I should be, shown the support I should have or simply let you down.  In the moment I have apologised and you have understood but I still feel guilt for many things and this has been on my mind a lot recently so putting this to words this is my therapy and this is for you my girl squad:

  • I'm sorry that for the first 9 months of my pregnancy and following 6 months in my newborn bubble I became a total hermit. I loved that you still invited me to every occasion even though you know I wouldn't make it.
  • I'm sorry that I missed one of your weddings. You travelled from Australia to the rolling hills of Tuscany to be my Maid Of Honour and I just couldn't make it happen to attend your Australian wedding. I know you said you forgive me, but I can't myself and I still to this day feel so very bad about it.
  • I'm sorry that I sometimes go days, weeks and even months without replying to texts. And I'm sorry I don't reply to some at all. The simple task of writing a two sentence reply can be many attempts in the making in between Baby Girl's demands and many times I read and forget the text ever existed. I'm sorry.
  • I'm sorry to my UK squad for never answering your calls. The previously normal 8pm gossip chat timeslot is now smack bang in the middle of the 'evening routine'. Some nights my little sleep fighter doesn't settle until 10pm. By the time I've done dinner and won the bedtime battle I'm absolutely exhausted and the only ounce of energy I have left I use to crawl in to my bed.
  • I'm sorry that when we do speak that often I can't string a sentence together, the sleep deprivation is REAL.
  • I'm sorry you had your first day at your super amazing new job and I didn't wish you good luck. I hope you know how very proud of you I am.
  • I'm sorry I can't be included in girl's trips. I can't stand the idea of leaving my princess for even one night, but I'm working on that one ;)
  • I'm sorry to my Australian squad that Skype and FaceTime sessions are nearly non existent. That UK/ Australian time difference is terrible and completely not baby mama friendly. I value our whatsapp chats so much and even more, spending treasured time with you during my annual trips home (1month to go until my next visit, yippee).
  • I'm sorry I'm unorganised, I forget important things. I cancel our lady dates and sometimes don't offer you the support you really deserve. I am one frazzled mummy just trying to master the balance of life...


I thank you for sticking by me. I'm forever greatful for you all and the support you have given me. I thank you for so lovingly embracing Baby Girl, she adores her extended Aunties so very much, and I have to say she is one lucky kid to grow up with so many brilliant role models surrounding her. Thank you for allowing my chat to change from the coolest bars and the best lady to visit for eyebrow threading to baby poo and weaning stories - not only for letting me bring them to the table but for being interested in them. Thank you for showing me what unconditional friendship really is. I am so blessed.

And just know this..... You ladies are my squad for life. There are still so many life stages for us to experience together and together we will grow. Remember I am always here for you no matter what the circumstances. And if you ever need to know how to handle your child throwing their whole bowl of dinner that you've lovingly spent hours preparing on the floor. Or you're wondering how you are going to get through the day when you have had no more than a 1 hour sleep stretch through the night. Or you simply need someone to show you it's OK to not be perfect. Don't worry, I got you covered ladies.

Love you.

Kat x


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8 comments

  1. What a lovely post. Nice to hear you have such amazing friends. It makes all the difference knowing friends have your back, I'm very thankful to have such lovely friends too :)

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  2. It is amazing that your friends understand what you are going through and have supported you. The mark of a true friendship x

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  3. Such a lovely post things do get a bit mental when you enter the whole parenthood arena. True friendship though conquers all and although you feel a bit guilty I'm sure they all still think the world of you x

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  4. This is such a lovely post. My little man has special needs so I've lost touch with some friends and haven't had a chance to meet new friends so I'm kind of stuck in the middle. I'd ove my own girl squad one day, just knowing there's someone on the end of the phone if I need them is something I really need in my life x

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  5. Aw this is lovely! So nice that your friends really understand

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  6. What a great post, makes me think i should do one for my girlies. It's those women that make you stronger and support you know matter what that counts. x

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  7. What a sweet post, I struggle to hold on to friends but you have some really good relationships.

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  8. Love this post. Good to having an amazing support system. Every mother needs that. I have very few people I call friend.

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